What if you really want to be open and truthful with your mate but you’re afraid that they really can’t handle the truth? We are always encouraged to be open and honest when communicating. No one wants to be lied to, but can you really handle the truth? Recently we had a conversation with a group of couples about being open! We discovered that we really need God in the midst of truthfully communicating.
Genesis 2:25 NKJV says; “And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed.” They were able to be naked with no shame before they sinned. After they sinned, there was shame and awkwardness. This created a barrier between Adam and Eve and in their relationship with God. This is also true in relationships. When we have nothing to hide, no barriers our communication is great. This makes it easier to open. However, we want to hide when we don’t want our spouse or God to know about things that they will not like or think favorably of. We can’t hide from God.
“You want to tell the truth, but what if your spouse can’t handle it?” First you have to be prayerful about the timing, the environment and how God would have you to share. The truth requires maturity on both parts. You need to be mature enough to tell the truth and the listener needs to be mature enough to receive the truth without anyone feeling attacked. Then what? Can we take that truth to God? He already knows it but, we need to take it to Him so that we can handle it. He is the God of all Comfort and where we are weak, He is strong. God gives us what we need to process the truth and the hard to receive matters. However, we must go to Him. We need to be able to take it to the Lord and then get direction on the next steps.
Sharing the truth and being open may require some changed behaviors on both parts. But I honestly believe that the truth is necessary in order to grow and to properly move forward. Each person needs to be able to be freed by telling the truth. You may not like the truth, and you may not like your spouse after they tell you the truth, but God. If you hang in there, you can experience a blessing in multiple areas of your marriage. The Holy Spirit is our helper and He wants to be a very present help in our marriage. Allow Him to help you to tell the truth, receive the truth and then process it in a way that will be pleasing to God. With God’s help, you can handle the truth and move forward.
May the Lord bless you to operate in truth! John 8:32 “. . . and you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.
Until next week . . .