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The 2nd Word to Transform 2021

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“If you’re going to pray, don’t worry! If you’re going to worry, don’t pray.” Sound familiar? There are so many things that are happening today that can cause worry. However, we must combat the spirit of worry with prayerfulness. As I mentioned last week, I will share 21 words to transform your 2021. Check last week’s post for the first word. This week’s word is #2 PRAYERFULNESS! I challenge you to pray more today than you did yesterday, and pray more this year than you did last year.

I don’t know about you, but the enemy constantly brings negative thoughts to my mind that create worry. To worry is to “torment oneself with or suffer from disturbing thoughts.” If not my thoughts, listening to the news and seeing the things that are happening can make me worry. If that doesn’t do it, just living in a pandemic. Thinking, what if this happens, and what if that happens is enough to make one worry. Each time that negative thoughts come, I have learned to cast them out and PRAY.

II Corinthians 10:5 says, casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ . . .” I also start telling myself ” . . . whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy meditate on these things.” (Philippians 4:8)

God wants us to come to Him with EVERY care. His Word tells us to cast ALL of our cares on Him. (I Peter 5:7). He doesn’t want to be the last person that we come, but the first. Over the last few months, I have received some devastating news over the phone from the loss of family members, divorce, and the loss of employment. In each situation, I have prayed because the information was too much for me to carry. I had to give it to the Lord. God can handle it so let’s be quick and fervent in taking everything to Him in prayer.

In I Chronicles Chapter 4 a man named Jabez stands out because of his prayer to God! The wonderful thing about his prayer is that God granted him what he requested (verse 10). God is still in the prayer answering business! Lord knows we have a lot to pray about. Let’s be more prayerful than ever before, and watch God change things!

Until next week. . . .


“21 Words to Transform 2021”


Yay!! Thank God we made it into 2021! Happy New Year! How has your new year been so far? This is normally the time of year where people are thinking about what they would like to accomplish and changes they may need to make. I start each new year by fasting and praying so that I can get closer to God and clearly hear what He wants me to do.

One of the things that God has given me so far is instructions on what to post for the next 21 weeks. Each week, I will share ONE word that can transform your 2021. This is going to be a journey of faith because I am trusting God to speak to me about a different word for 21 weeks. As God shares it with me, I will share it with you. The first word is FAITHFUL!

To be FAITHFUL is to be: True to one’s word, promises vows, reliable, loyal, trusted, and constant

As we journey through 2021, I want to encourage you to be FAITHFUL! First of all, God is faithful! (1 Corin. 1:9) We can always depend on Him, and He wants us to have this characteristic operating in our lives. I am asking God to help me to be faithful in all that He has called me to do, what about you? There are so many blessings that come from being faithful. I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to miss out on what God has in store. One of the ways that we can miss out is by being unfaithful. I Chronicles 10:13 says, “So Saul died for his unfaithfulness which he had committed against the Lord, because he did not keep the Lord, and also because he consulted a medium for guidance.”

God wants us to be FAITHFUL! Here are 7 key areas to apply the word FAITHFUL

  1. Be FAITHFUL to God – Consistent times of prayer, reading, and applying God’s Word
  2. Be FAITHFUL to Yourself – Consistent times of self-care activities (Rest, exercise, healthy eating, etc.)
  3. Be FAITHFUL to Your Spouse – Consistent relations and intimacy with only your husband/wife.
  4. Be FAITHFUL to Your Family/Friends – Consistently look for ways to be faithful in word and indeed.
  5. Be FAITHFUL in Ministry – Consistently look for ways to serve the Lord by helping others.
  6. Be FAITHFUL in Your Finances – Consistently give to God first by tithing and giving an offering. Save where you can and be a good steward of what God has given you.
  7. Be FAITHFUL in Your Career/Job – Consistently show up on time, be a good worker, and represent Christ in the workplace.

Stay tuned each week for the word of the week. I am so excited to see what God will give me. Be encouraged and be faithful! God is watching!

Until next week . . .


“My Last 2020 Post”

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What a year! I think the word that best describes 2020 is “UNPRECEDENTED!” I heard this word over and over this year but, I agree. COVID 19 has created a life that we have never seen or experienced before. There have been so many changes, challenges both good and bad. I think everyone has experienced a loss in some way; loss of family members, friends, co-workers, jobs, homes, businesses, property, etc. No matter what your experience has been, I want to encourage you to put on a garment of praise!

Isaiah 61:3 says, “To console those who mourn in Zion, to give them beauty for ashes, the oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness; that they may be called trees of righteousness.” I know there is a lot of mourning and heaviness going on. I lost my grandmother who raised me just a few months ago, and just about every other day, I am hearing of another loss or about someone who is suffering from COVID. In the midst of it all, God has still been good!! Therefore, I am choosing to end the year reflecting on 20 blessings of 2020.

This is what I am most thankful for . . .

  1. Life, I am still here!
  2. My relationship with Jesus Christ!
  3. Having the Word of God and good books to read for my mental sanity
  4. Relationships with friends and family
  5. My husband & celebrating 22 years of marriage
  6. God healed my body this summer and restored my health
  7. Strength and the ability to exercise
  8. Church and church family
  9. Co-Workers and my students
  10. Having a job and sources of income
  11. Being able to work from home
  12. Technology that has allowed us to stay connected (Zoom, FaceTime, etc.)
  13. A house to live in
  14. Food to eat
  15. Clothes on my back
  16. Being in my right mind (Mental health is so important)
  17. Publishing a new book this year (Homeschooling from A to Z)
  18. Having two graduates (one from high school and one from college)
  19. Protection from the virus
  20. Opportunities to minister and help others

To God be the glory for the great things that He has done and is doing! I look forward to what 2021 will bring. What about you? What has God done for you in 2020? Tell of His goodness! May the Lord continue to comfort and strengthen all who are mourning in the name of Jesus! May He heal those who are sick mentally and physically. May we transition from 2020 into the new year! Put on a garment of praise!!

Until next time. . .


“Do you fear the Lord?”

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Merry Christmas everyone! One of the best presents that you can give the Lord is “FEAR.” When I say fear, I mean having an overwhelming feeling of reverence and admiration for the Lord God Almighty. This feeling of fear is not being afraid of God but having a deep respect and simply being in awe of God. So my question for this week is; “Do you fear the Lord?”

What does the Bible say about fearing the Lord?

Proverbs 31:30 says; “Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.” Job 28:28 says “And to man He said, Behold, the fear of the Lord, that is wisdom, and to depart from evil is understanding.” Lastly, in Proverbs 1:7 and 9:10 King Solomon tells us that the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom and knowledge. “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and instruction.”

As I reflected further on the word FEAR here is what God gave me:

F = Facilitate your life in such a way that you take God seriously. Make God your number #1 Priority through prayer, worship, reading the Bible, and most importantly doing what it says.

E = Examine the way that you engage with others and be sure that your behavior/conversations exemplify Christ.

A = Acknowledge God in all your ways. Recognize that God exist and that He is present. Make decisions that will show others that, you fear the Lord. Apply God’s Word to your everyday life.

R = Reverence and respect God. When you show reverence and respect, there are certain things that you will not do/say because you realize that God sees and hears EVERYTHING. There is no hiding from God.

As we prepare to celebrate Christmas and end this year, let us remember to fear the Lord. This is not only for you, but teach your children and grandchildren to fear the Lord. There are so many benefits and blessings that come with fearing the Lord.

Until next time. . .


“Know better, do better . . .”

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Have you ever heard the saying; “When you know better, do better?” I want to add to this, by saying when you know better, do better, and not only that, help someone else to do better. Many of us have been blessed by people who have learned some valuable lessons, but they didn’t keep it to themselves, they shared it. What are some lessons that God has taught you? What mistakes, challenges, or difficulties have you had that have caused you to do things differently?

The late Bishop Lewis Tait, Sr. used to say, “It takes a wise man to learn from his mistakes, but an even wiser man will learn from someone else’s mistakes.” I don’t know about you, but I don’t want my children or anyone else to make the same mistakes that I did. Therefore, I know that I have to share what I know to help others.

When you look over your life, I am sure that you have knowledge on various topics such as; marriage, money, relationships, careers, health, etc. If each one of us were to share one lesson learned, we can help somebody. I want to specifically share on the issue of money. I had a student loan from attending college at Morgan State University. I graduated, got a job, started paying my loan, and when times got hard, I had the loan payments deferred. Does anyone know what I am talking about? When things got better, I started paying the student loans again, and needless to say, I have been paying them for many years! When my daughter got ready to attend college about 3 years ago (I was still paying my student loans), I had an epiphany! The thought came to me, you do not want your daughter to go to college and have to pay student loans for 20 plus years. Therefore, you must do things differently, and teach her to do better.

Long story short, the Lord made a way for me to pay off my student loan debt last year. Hallelujah!!! I am also praising God because this week my daughter completed undergraduate school and is graduating DEBT FREE! With the help of the Lord (scholarships, cash and a small loan that she paid back herself), I was able to do better and show my daughter how to do better. As a result, she gets to start her life after college better than I did because she is starting DEBT FREE! When God teaches us how to do better, we must do better, and share it!

James 4:17 NKJV says, “Therefore, to him who knows to do good and does not do it, to him it is sin.”

Until next week . . .


“Can you say NO to yourself?”

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Have you ever told yourself NO? It’s not always easy, but sometimes it is necessary to tell yourself NO! NO, you are not going there, and NO, you are not going to do that. Oftentimes this flesh wants what it wants when it wants it. However, this week I want to discuss the need to tell yourself NO. Let’s talk about it!


I am so glad that you asked the question. Whenever self wants something that is contrary to the will of God, you’ve got to tell yourself NO! For example; if you are married and you want to do something that violates your marriage vows, or something that would hurt your spouse, you must tell yourself NO. If you are single and you want to do something that violates your relationship with God or just isn’t God’s best for you, you must tell yourself NO!

We must also learn to say NO when self wants things that are not good for us. It may be drugs, alcohol, addictions, and even certain foods that we need to leave alone. If it causes harm, pain or discomfort those are usually signs that we need to say no. Our bodies will crave things that we should not have and it is up to us to tell ourselves NO. We will even deceive ourselves by calling wrong right and talking ourselves into doing something that we know we should not do. However, we must say NO! We should also tell ourselves NO when we want things before the proper time. This is the time of the year where many will go and spend money that they do not have instead of saying NO.

There are goals that you may want to accomplish however, in order for you to accomplish them, you will have to say NO to yourself. No, you are not going to procrastinate any further and no, you are not going to make excuses. Saying NO at the proper time is operating in the fruit of the Spirit. In Galatians 5:22-23, we are told that one of the fruits of God’s Spirit is self-control, and we must walk in the Spirit.

NO, NO, and NO!

I don’t know about you, but sometimes I have to tell myself no more than once. When my flesh really wants something that I should not I have, I have to say no, no, and then no again. Self-talk is powerful! As I am telling myself no, I then have to pray and ask God for His help, His power, and His strength to resist whatever it is and to say NO. Saying no when your flesh wants to say yes is difficult however, James 4:7 tells us to resist the devil and he will flee.

If saying NO to yourself allows you to please God, do the right/righteous thing, then say NO. We have to learn to say NO to ourselves and walk in the fruit of the Spirit with self-control. May the Lord bless you and reveal to you every area where you need to say NO!

Until next time . . .


“Pleasing Him”

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Is there anything you want to accomplish before 2020 ends? How about goals for 2021? As I pray about what I want to accomplish, my number one goal is to please Him! This statement is twofold. First, as Christians, our number one goal should be to please God. Second, if you are married another goal should be to please your spouse. Singles only have to focus on the first. However, if pleasing God is your goal be sure to hook up with someone who feels the same.

Pleasing God should be the foundation for every goal. I desire to please Him in my walk, talk and simply put, the way that I live my everyday life. How about you? When our ways please God, so many other things will fall into place. So what does it mean to please God? Pleasing God is walking in obedience to His Word, His Will and His Ways. It’s having faith and doing what Jesus wants you to do with; your body, mind, your money, your job, your family, your living arrangements, your children etc. It doesn’t mean that we are perfect but our highest priority is to please God. It is so important for us to learn the will of God and get an understanding so we can know how to please Him.

“For this reason we also, since the day we heard it, do not cease to pray for you, and to ask that you may be filled with the knowledge of His will in all wisdom and spiritual understanding: that you may walk worthy of the Lord, fully pleasing Him, being fruitful in every good work and increasing in the knowledge of God. (Colossians 1:9-10)

This verse brings me to my Second point on “Pleasing Him.” This time I am talking about pleasing your spouse. Colossians 1:9-10 reminds us that we need to have an understanding and knowledge of God’s will before we can fully please Him. Likewise, in order to fully please your spouse, you need to have an understanding and knowledge of their desires before you can fully please. A husband/wife who desires to please the Lord should also desire to please each other.

In closing, as you set goals I want to encourage you to pray and do what pleases God. God’s will always lines up with HIs Word. Pleasing Him brings peace. Lord, please help us to please you! “When a man’s ways are pleasing to the Lord, He makes even his enemies to be at peace with him. “ (Proverbs 16:7).

Until next time. . .


“Refusing to Change”

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“I am not going to change!” Have you ever heard anyone make this statement? Perhaps they have not said it verbally, but their actions are speaking. Well, this statement is not an issue if your current actions and behavior align with the way that God wants you to live. However, if you are a Christian and your actions are contrary to the Word of God this is a problem statement. God is the only ONE who can say, “I do not change.” (Malachi 3:6) He is already perfect!

As a Christian, our goal should be to please God in all of our actions. When we realize we have said or done something wrong it is our job to make a change. God will often speak to us personally through His Word or have someone else to speak to us. When we receive godly counsel or correction, it is up to us to receive it and make a change or we can reject it and stay the same. Fully receiving it, means repenting and making a change in our actions.

As Christians, it is so important that we are in good standing with the Lord. We all have to check our actions. Here are two questions I want you to ask yourself. Is the Lord pleased with my attitude/actions? If you are married, Is my spouse pleased with my attitude/actions? If you answer no to either question, what changes do you need to make? Is an apology needed? Refusing to change is dangerous!

C – Christians must be willing to change. Jesus Christ is Our Change Agent. When we give our life to Jesus, He changes us. Some changes happen quickly and others take time. When a person gets married more change is required. A husband and wife should be willing to make changes to please God and to please one another. We need God to help us to be patient with each other in the change process. Refusing to change is not CHRIST LIKE. Get rid of the excuses like; “I am too old to change and I have always been this way or done this.” (especially when your actions do not please God) (2 Corinthians 5:17-21)

H – Humble yourself in prayer and ask God to change your heart. Ask God to make your heart line up with God’s Word and His will. A hardened heart causes a person to refuse change. (2 Chronicles 7:14 )

A – Align your actions with the Word of God. Allow God to arrest your old way of doing things and acquire new ways. When a single person gets married, there needs to be a change in behavior. Refusing to change will be a problem. (Proverbs 10:17)

N – Never say “I am not going to change or I refuse to change.” If change means being in good standing with the Lord, we must be willing to change. (Proverbs 12:15)

G – God is in the life-changing business. Get into God’s Word, it is the medicine for change. Take your medicine each day and watch God change you! If you are dealing with someone who refuses to change you definitely need to take your medicine to deal with them. (Romans 12:2)

E- Examine your ways today! Is God calling you to make a change? Has your spouse been asking you to do something that would make them happy but you refuse to change? Perhaps it’s out of your comfort zone but ask God to help you to make the change. (Proverb 14:16-17 )

Until next time. . .


“10 P’s to Help Parents”

If you are homeschooling or helping your children with virtual learning this is the post for you! I shared these during my virtual book launch but just in case you missed it, I want to share these principles with you.

Psalm 127:3 reminds us that our children are gifts from God and that the fruit of the womb is a reward. Let’s examine our perspective. How do you see and treat your children? Do you see them as gifts and treat them like rewards or do you see them as burdens and getting on your nerve? The pandemic has required many of us to be around our children more than ever. If you have school-aged children, you are probably assisting with virtual learning, homeschooling, or having to help with your child’s education in some way.

The following are 10 P’s to Successful Homeschooling and Virtual Learning:

  1. PRAYER – Start your day with prayer. As parents, you should have your own private time with the Lord. Also, take time to pray with children at the beginning of their school day.
  2. PLAN – Decide the curriculum that you will need or the subjects that will be taught each day. Determine the life principles that you want to teach and share with your children. Create a schedule of how you want the day to go, post it, and make your children aware. Make a plan and stick to it as much as possible. Also, establish a set time for your children to wake up, get dressed, start school, and a decent bedtime. When children don’t get the proper rest, it’s difficult to learn.
  3. PREPARE – Start the day with breakfast and be sure that your child is equipped with the necessary school supplies for the day. It’s hard to learn if you’re hungry or if you don’t have the tools that you need.
  4. POSITION – Provide a place for your child to do school work. A desk or a table where they can do their work. The position should be a place where there are very few distractions.
  5. PRACTICE – Be sure that each day your child spends time practicing in each subject. For example; 45 minutes in Math, 45 minutes in Language Arts, etc. You can also pick specific days for specific subjects.
  6. POTENTIAL – Every child has potential!! God has placed so many gifts in your child. As a parent, you are to help discover, mold, shape, and guide your child. Help them find the purpose that God has for them.
  7. PERSEVERANCE – Press through the challenges of life and the difficult days. Encourage your child not to give up when they have a difficult time learning or mastering a subject.
  8. POSITIVE – Speak well of your child and speak blessings into their life. Help to build your child’s self-esteem based on your words. Children often remember words from their parents. What are you saying to your children?
  9. PLAY – Take time out of each day to have some fun. Incorporate playtime and physical education in the day. Plan field trips!
  10. PRESENCE – Be present as much as you can. Hold your children accountable for what they should do at home and for school. Be close so that you can help guide and correct when necessary. Also, teach them how to get into the presence of God by spending time in prayer, worship, and in the Word of God.

As a parent, you only get one opportunity! Once your children are grown it’s over, we don’t get to go back and raise them again. Make the best of it! If you have not picked up your copy of my newest book, “Homeschooling from A to Z,” click on this link to purchase your autographed copy.

Until next time . . .


Give Birth to Something!!

On November 6, I celebrated my birthday. I can remember my mom saying when I was born, she presented me to the Lord and knew that God would do something special in my life. Everything God has done and is doing all started with one act of obedience and that was giving birth! Let’s talk about giving birth, what dream, vision, project, idea, book, ministry or assignment does God want you to birth? Have you done it?

When God places an idea, dream, or a vision in our minds we can either give birth to it or abort it. What are you doing? Often times the vision that He gives is bigger than us. This just means that we will have to rely and depend on the Lord to make the dream a reality. You see once God gives it, He wants us to have faith and do the work to make it a reality. If we would just take the first step, God will guide us to the next step. However, we must be consistent. If we take the first step and do not continue, we may never see the completion of the dream. I encourage you to give birth to whatever God has placed in your heart! Remember Ephesians 3:20 “Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us . . .” God has given you the power will you let it work? Also, that we can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens us (Philippians 4:13).

I recently heard Pastor Sarah Jakes Roberts say that it is not enough to give birth to something, after giving birth, you have to nurture it! I am giving birth to my fifth book, Homeschooling from A to Z but one of the ways that I desire to nurture it is by sharing it with as many people as I can. If I can encourage one person while they are raising and educating their children then I fulfilling the assignment that God has given me. Parenting is not easy and we all need encouragement, wisdom, and guidance on this journey.

If you haven’t heard I am giving birth to my fifth book this Saturday, November 15th. The book is titled; “Homeschooling from A to Z.” The Lord told me to write this book about four years ago. I started it but procrastinated with finishing it. I finally finished and want to share it with you through a virtual book launch. Registration is required but the event is free. You are cordially invited to attend and invite a friend. I would love to see you!

Click on this here to register!

Until next time. . .


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