When you decide that you want to be a doctor, lawyer, teacher or any other professional, you already know that you will have to go to school. Obtaining knowledge and skills are necessary in order for you to succeed in almost every profession. Some go to college, some go to trade school, some learn online and some get on the job training however, people who succeed in their jobs are usually the ones who know the work and are skilled. Skills are important for success! Marriage skills are necessary for all of those who desire to get married and those who want to stay married.
We have a tendency to get skilled for everything else, but think that we should meet someone, fall in love, and get married without obtaining any marriage skills. This is crazy! Marriage is so serious that it should never be entered into lightly. Running off and getting married or getting married without taking the time to get some marriage skills, is taking marriage lightly.
What are skills? The dictionary defines skills as: “Competent excellence in performance; expertness, a craft.” Marriage skills can be acquired by getting some pre-marital counseling, reading everything that you can on having a godly marriage and gleaning from positive married couples. Since marriage should not be entered into lightly, it is necessary to get as much knowledge as you can before you say, I do! Take time to learn about marriage itself and about the person who you are planning to marry. Some things will not be revealed until you are actually married. However, if you get good pre-marital counseling, you will have the tools and skills necessary to deal with whatever comes your way.
Learning marriage skills before you actually get into marriage is wise. There is so much to learn until you will be learning even after you are married. Actually, couples who want to maintain a good marriage should continue to learn each other and practice using marriage skills throughout their lifetime.
Marriage skills come in different areas however, here are a few key skills that are necessary to have a successful marriage:
- How to include God in your marriage
- Money Management
- Time Management
- Becoming Parents
- How to Forgive
- How to deal with your in-laws, family and friends
- How to love your your spouse
- How to respect each other
The list could go on and on however, I think you get my point. If you want a successful marriage, you must be skilled. The Bible speaks highly of those who are skilled. Proverbs 22:29 says, “Do you see someone skilled in their work? They will serve before kings; they will not serve before officials of low rank.” There are benefits in getting skills. A bad marriage can be better if the husband and wife get some marriage skills. Get as many as skills as you can before you get married. After you are married, maintain using your skills and always be ready to learn new ones.
Until next week,