“First Love”
Remember when you first fell in love with your husband or your wife? Think about the things you used to do, places you used to go and things that you used to say. You went out of your way to do things because you were so in love. Obviously, you won your spouse over because you both agreed to get married. I have heard so many couples share their beautiful love stories and wonder how does it go from the love story to not wanting to be together?
Last week, I wrote about God’s definition of love (See I Corinthians 13). When we look at real love and what we had when we first selected our spouse, was it really love? What happens to the love? I think once we live with a person, start learning more and more about them, their ways, habits and family background, we sometimes discover that we don’t like what we see. Our enthusiasm about each other dwindles as our knowledge increases. In other words, sometimes the more we know the less we love. It shouldn’t be this way, but some couples discover that they don’t like the choice they made.
Today’s topic was inspired by Rev. 2:4 (NLT) “But I have this complaint against you. You don’t love me or each other as you did at first.” This verse tells us that God wants us to keep loving Him like we did when we first fell in love. He wants us to love with fervor and intensity. Fervor is defined as great warmth and earnestness of feeling. Intensity refers to great energy, strength, concentration, thought or feeling. It’s a high or extreme degree of love. God wants us to learn more about Him and still love Him. It’s about having knowledge and enthusiasm about the one we love. So my question today is; “Do you love God and your spouse with the same fervor as when you first fell in love?” Until next week . . . Carolyn
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