Last night, I was having a conversation with a friend who was asked a question about another friend, but she didn’t want to answer. She didn’t want to answer, because her response would have caused the hearer to think negatively about her friend. I was so blessed by the fact that she was careful not to say anything that would cause one friend to look down on another. Often times we speak and share information that is not beneficial to the hearer. This week I would like to focus on what we are saying to our spouse, children, potential spouse, family and friends. The question that you should ask before speaking is; “Is It beneficial?” If not, stop yourself before it comes out.
This is a very important topic, because marriages and relationships are dieing as a result of pollution from the tongue. If we constantly speak words that are foul, unwholesome, negative or just don’t have anything good to say to those who are around us, we will cause people to not want to be around us. Imagine if this person is your spouse or your child. Saying things to someone or about someone that are not beneficial is dangerous. It’s also dangerous when we say these things to ourselves. Our words can tear down the hearer, cause them to think negatively or badly about someone.
So what does it mean to speak beneficially? I am so glad that you asked. (smile) Speaking beneficially means saying something that is advantageous or good to someone or about someone. As a child, I remember being told, “If you can’t say something good, then don’t say anything at all.” We should think about this, and be intentional about speaking beneficially to our spouse, children, potential spouse, family and friends.
Today, my Amplified Bible opened to Ephesians 4:29, when I read this verse, it was a confirmation that God wants us to speak beneficially. It says, “Let no foul or polluting language, nor evil word nor unwholesome or worthless talk [ever] come out of your mouth, but only such [speech] as is good and beneficial to the spiritual progress of others, as is fitting to the need and the occasion, that it may be a blessing and give grace (God’s favor) to those who hear it.” Read this verse at least 3 times so that you can get it in your spirit. Pray and ask God to help you to apply it. My prayer is that God would forgive me for the times that I have not spoken beneficially.
Until next week . . .