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“Do You Really Enjoy Being With Your Spouse?”


Over the past two weeks, I know of at least three married people who have lost their spouses.  Two died of cancer and one husband and wife died together in a car accident.  In addition, I know of two situations where a spouse was in a serious accident that could have killed them if it wasn’t for the grace of God.  My own husband was in one of these situations but God!  We have been rejoicing that God spared his life, and he is still here!  So I have been asking God what is it that He wants me to get from all of this?  I keep hearing Him say, “learn how to really enjoy your husband.”  Stop taking time for granted.”  Treat your spouse as if you have limited time together and be more intentional about enjoying every moment.
There are two verses that I have been speaking loudly to me and I want to share them.   First, Ephesians 5:16 says “making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil.”  If we would just think about this as it relates to life and time spent with our spouse, ask yourself, “Am I making the most of every opportunity?”  Am I treating my spouse with the love that God intended me to give?  Are we enjoying this precious time here on earth or are we allowing the devil to keep us on bad terms?  Life is so short, and we really need to let some things go in order to enjoy being with our spouse.
The second verse is Proverbs 5:18-19 which says,”May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.  A loving doe, a graceful deer–may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love.”    This is my prayer for all of the married couples. As I defined the word captivated it said to take delight beyond measure.  Imagine if every husband and wife would have delight beyond measure with simply being together.  The NKJV says,”may you ever be enraptured by her love.”  To be enraptured means to attract and hold the attention or interest of as beauty or excellence.
Although we all want to believe that we don’t have to do anything to enjoy each other’s presence.  There are some things that makes being together more enjoyable. As my husband and I discussed what makes us enjoy each other’s presence here are a few things that work for us.
1.  Men are visual so ladies always make your self look pleasing to the eye.
    This is true both ways because I love to see my husband looking good as well.
2.  Be willing to try something different
4.  Being affectionate
5.  Getting into each other’s world
5.  Having a positive attitude with positive conversation
6.  Having something to talk about (current events, scripture, something new that you learned)
7.  Doing something fun together
8.  Sometimes just sitting on the couch together with no agenda
I encourage you to find out what makes your spouse enjoy your presence, and be intentional about doing it.  Make the most of every opportunity that God gives you!
Until next week.  . .

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5 thoughts on ““Do You Really Enjoy Being With Your Spouse?”

  1. Janice O. Nelson on said:

    Touch Down! Thank you for a awesome reaffirming message! Tackling the thing that is keeping us from enjoying one another! Agape!

  2. Amen . . . thanks for that much needed perspective.

  3. Yes we must continue to truly love one another for love is of God (1 John 4:7). Thank you for such a timely reminder!

  4. Ricardo Andrews on said:

    Hi Carolyn,

    Thanks for the inspiring message again as it gives more insight on roles, responsibilities, marriage in general. I did, however, have a question in regard to number 5. When you say get “into each other’s world”, could you elaborate on what you mean?

    Thanks for any and all feedback.

    Ricardo Andrews Lead Employment Consultant at SEEC


    • Hello Ricardo

      Getting into each other’s world means finding out what your spouse enjoys and doing it with them even if it is something that you may not be interested in. For example; I may not like the same shows that my husband watches on television but sometimes I will sit beside him and watch whatever he is watching just to get into his world. This could also mean having conversations about the things that matter most to your spouse or going to a place that your spouse may enjoy. I hope this helps.

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