“Did you get what you wanted?”
The real question is; “Did you get what you wanted when you wanted what you got?” That may not sound like good English but think about what this question is asking. Often times people spend so much time wanting something or someone and once they get it, they discover that it is not what they thought it would be.
I have spoken to so many newlyweds who say, “I didn’t think that marriage would be this way. He or she did one thing while we were dating but now that we are married they have changed.” Some spouses say; “Yes, I saw the signs when we were dating, but I thought he/she would be different once we got married. Singles, whatever signs that you see when you are courting/dating, read them and pay attention. Often times whatever you see at a minimum is maximized after you say, “I do.”
I think it is normal to get married and think to yourself, oh I didn’t know this or I didn’t know that. There are some things that you will not find out until after you are married and live with a person. However, I strongly recommend pre-marital counseling so that you can prepare as much as possible before saying, “I do.” When the unexpected happens and the difficult times come, trust and rely on God to see you through. Too many people are giving up after trying a few times. When you purchase something and it’s not what you wanted, you are likely to take it back. Well, when your spouse is not everything or doing everything that you want, take them back to God in prayer on a consistent basis. Pray until something changes in you, your spouse or both. While you are waiting on the change, be patient and remember how patient God has been with you.
Have you ever heard about the three strand cord? Ecclesiastes 4:12 says that, (NLT) “A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back. Three are even better, for a triple braided cord is not easily broken.” The three strands represent: the husband, wife and Jesus Christ. When things don’t go the way that you would like, hang in there and look to Jesus Christ. Find someone who has stood the test of times in their marriage and have weathered the storms. God will be your strength, your help and your peace in the midst of whatever you go through. The enemy wants you to give up, but keep fighting, appreciate what you have and allow God to make it better.
Until next week . . .
Carolyn
Marriage from A to Z 