“Can you share from your heart?”
When was the last time you had a heart to heart talk with the one you love? Each day has its challenges, and if we are not careful, we are trying to survive off of surface conversations. For the past few weeks we have been discussing; “How to have a PROSPEROUS Marriage in 2018.” This week we will focus on the last letter S which stands for “Sharing from your heart.”
One of the top 10 reasons for divorce is a lack of communication. A lack of anything means there is a deficiency or there is an absence of something needed. I would think that trying to survive off of surface talk alone fits into the lack of communication category. I know we have busy schedules, but we must make time to have heart to heart conversations on a regular basis. Put the cell phone down, turn the television off, get off of the computer and talk. Look at each other and give your undivided attention. We have to be intentional because if not, we will sit in each other’s presence and bury our heads in our phones instead of talking to one another.
Honesty is one of the keys to having real communication. If you can’t be truthful, you won’t get to the heart. It’s important that we ask the right questions, share honestly and be transparent. Ask questions such as;
- How are we doing?
- How do you feel about how our marriage/relationship is going?
- What could make you happier?
- Are you pleased with our intimacy/frequency (married couples only)?
- What makes you feel loved/respected or disrespected?
- How am I doing with speaking your love language? (gifts, acts of service, quality time, words of affirmation and physical touch)
- What are your dreams and goals?
Once you get the answers to these questions, you have to promise not to get angry. Don’t allow the answers to lead to arguments. Both parties need to be able to share honestly without anyone getting an attitude. Having prayer before, during (in your mind) and after these conversations is always helpful. Ask God to help you listen to your mates heart and really try to be responsive in a mature way.
Sharing from the heart can keep your marriage/relationship alive and vibrant! Proverbs 4:23 “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.” (NIV)
Until next week . . .