Shhh. . .! Sometimes it’s the best response. This is one word that can make a marriage/relationship or break it! You may have something to say, but you must use wisdom so that you can discern when to shhh and when you should speak. Over the past week, I have had more than one situation where I was talking to my husband and wanted to say something but God told me to shhh! Each time, I listened and watched God move in the conversation without me saying what I was thinking. This week’s post is focusing on the positive use of the word shhh in a marriage/relationship.
I think everyone knows what it means to shhh! However, let’s look at how it is defined: “To be quiet, shut up, stop talking and to keep your voice down.” If you learn when to shhh and when to speak, you can bless your spouse or whoever you are communicating with without saying a word. Spoken words are just like the toothpaste in the tube, once they come out, you can’t put them back. You can apologize or say that you didn’t mean to say something, but you can’t get them back. It is so important to know how to properly put this word into practice. If you shhh out of anger, or shut down to stop communicating with your spouse for a long period of time, this can be harmful. God never intends for us to shhh because we are holding a grudge or getting revenge.
Proverbs 17:27-28 (NIV) says; “The one who has knowledge uses words with restraint, and whoever has understanding is even-tempered. Even fools are thought wise if they keep silent, and discerning if they hold their tongues.” When communicating, we really need to know when to hold our tongues. If we pray about it, God will give us wisdom to discern when we need to shhh, when we need to speak and what we should say. Thinking it, does not mean that you have to say it. You don’t always have to be the teacher, allow God’s Holy Spirit to speak and to teach. Ecclesiastes 3:7 (NIV) says; “There is a time to tear and a time to mend, a time to be silent and a time to speak.”
There are some lessons that God wants to teach us, but the lesson is learned best when we are silent. Be intentional about asking God when He wants you to say something. God speaks and sometimes He really wants us to shhh!
Until next week . . .