Marriage from A to Z

“Why did I get married?”

“Why did I get married?”  Have you ever secretly asked yourself this question?  Many may not admit it, but they have.  Let’s discuss why a person would possibly ask this question shortly after marriage.  I could sum up the entire answer with one word,  “EXPECTATIONS.”  When your expectations (the thing you looked forward to) don’t line up with what is actually happening in your marriage, it produces a level of disappointment.

What are your expectations?  Did you discuss them with your significant other before you got married? Some people had secret expectations and did not discuss them, they just assumed that marriage would produce certain things.   Our expectations are the very things that we were looking forward to when we got married.  Everyone has different expectations, some were expecting; more love, true companionship, sex on a frequent basis, romantic date nights, children, help with raising children, more money, etc.  But what happens when these things don’t come or don’t happen as soon as you thought?    This is a challenge!

Cast your cares on the Lord for He cares for you (I Peter 5:7).  I know it’s not easy, but keep being the best spouse that you can be.  Certainly you should discuss your thoughts and feelings with your spouse, but ultimately God is the one who will make the difference.  Much prayer is needed in these disappointing situations.  If you thought it would be one way and it really is another way, PRAY!  Seek godly counsel and apply what you learn.  Look for ways to improve your situation.  Aim to please each other.  Ask the Lord  for strength to endure and to bless you with the right attitude as you wait on your change.     You have to do something different to get different results.

Know that God is able!  He will perfect that which concerns you.  Not getting things the exact way that you envisioned is no reason to quit or give up.  Marriage takes work and requires making adjustments.  Both parties need to do the work and be patient with each other.  The ultimate goal should be to please each other and to have a marriage that brings honor to God.   Remember marriage is God’s institution.  Blessings to you!

Until next week . . .

Carolyn