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The Power of Your Words

ImageImage“Sticks and stones may brake my bones but words will never hurt me!”  This statement is so far from the truth because words do hurt!  I use to say this as a child but after becoming an  adult, I have learned that your words are powerful.  How many of you can think of something that someone said to you years ago but you still remember it?  This is why I want to encourage you to evaluate what you have been saying lately.  

     What kind of words have you been saying to your husband, wife, children or your friends?  Are they words that build up, encourage, strengthen or words that hurt and tear down?  When we speak, we all use this one little body part called the tongue.  We can use it for good or bad.  Here is what the Word of God says about our tongue.


  1. The tongue is a fire, a world of evil among all of the body parts. (James 3:6)
  2. The tongue is a  small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. (James 3:5)
  3. We must bridle/restrain our tongue.  This means keep a tight rein on it.  (James 1:26)
  4. No man can tame the tongue. (James 3:8)
  5.  It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison. (James 3:8)


     One of the most interesting points is that the Bible says that no man can tame the tongue.  This means that we are all prone to say anything out of our mouths.  The only way that our tongue can be controlled is by allowing the Holy Spirit to change us from the inside out.  When we accept Christ, He gives us His Holy Spirit to help us do things that we can not do on our own.  The Holy Spirit will give us increasing power to monitor and control what we say.


     When you have been offended by words it is so important to pray and allow the Holy Spirit to remind you of God’s love so that you do not become bitter and react in a hateful manner.  When we are hurt or criticized, the Spirit will heal the hurt.  God’s spirit purifies our hearts and gives us self control so that we will speak words that build, encourage, strengthen and most importantly please God.  

     Evaluate your words and be selective in the words that you speak! Remember that your words are powerful!


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3 thoughts on “The Power of Your Words

  1. Tiffany White Gilbert on said:

    Great word!!! I read these same scriptures this morning…confirmation.

  2. Devona Wade on said:

    This was a very hard lesson for me to learn. I figured I should be able able to tell my husband exactly what I’m thinking…no filter. My thought was he’s a man he can take it. Boy was I wrong. Over the past year through study of God’s word and by talking to a trusted Mentor I’ve learned to be careful of what comes out and how I deliver messages to my husband. Words can cut deep and hurt for years.

  3. Nakita on said:

    Power message! This is an eye-opener for me. Thank you….

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