“Are You Just Married?”
Your first answer to this question may be no! You may say no because you have been married for over ____ years. However, once you read this definition of “Just Married” you may have to answer yes to this question. After listening to a teaching by TIm Lundy with the Family LIfe Ministry, I now see the words “Just Married” in a different way.
Perhaps you had a wedding, said I do, and went on a honey moon some time ago. Your last name changed and you are now called Mr. & Mrs. You even have a marriage license to prove that you got married some time ago but you are still “Just Married!” To be “just married” means that you went through the process of getting married but you really don’t have a marriage. What am I saying here? Marriage can be defined as any close or intimate association or union. In Genesis 2:24 the Bible says “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.”
Many are married but are not operating with a “Closeness or in Oneness”. This week’s challenge is to strive for oneness. Oneness is having a closeness in your marriage. When you are not close, you are distant. You feel like you are just room mates instead of soul mates. Although you and your spouse are very different, you have to learn to bring your differences together to become one. If we are not careful, we will let life, our career, our children, technology and everything else keep us from getting closer to the one we vowed our lives to. Oneness is the goal that God established in marriage. However, oneness doesn’t automatically happen. Both parties must be intentional about growing and flowing together and not growing apart.
In conclusion, we can move from being “just married” by establishing oneness. The goal is to get closer to your spouse in mind, heart and will. Open up, share your thoughts, your dreams and your mind. Discuss where you are going as a couple so that you are both going in the same direction. Keep the love flowing and be sure that you are emotionally connected. Be committed to working together. God is for your marriage and He wants you to be ONE!
Until next week . . .