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“Teach me how to love”

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Happy Valentine’s Day everyone!  Although we should show love everyday, today is a special day to celebrate love.  As I think about love in a marriage or love in any good relationship, these words come to my mind; “Teach me how to love!”  This is a prayer to the Lord, have you ever asked God to teach you how to love?

In John 14:21 God tells us how to love him.  He says; “Whoever has my commands and obeys them, he is the one who loves me.  He who loves me will be loved by my Father, and I too will love him and show myself to him.”  In other words, Jesus wants us to show our love for him by obeying him.  It’s nice to say; “I love you!”  However, love is more than lovely words; it is commitment and conduct.  Love is an action word.  If you love Christ, then prove it by obeying what he says in his Word.

Commitment and conduct are key words to demonstrating our love.  When it comes to marriage and other relationships we must go to God to get love and to give love.  God teaches us how to love each other (See I Corinthians 13).  When you feel like you have given all that you can give you must go to Love (God) and get a fresh supply.  God has an unlimited supply, and he freely gives us love.

The point that I want to make this week is that it is important for us to understand how to love one another especially, in a marriage relationship.  When a spouse feels like their love tank is low or empty, problems will arise.  As a spouse, our goal should be to help keep each other’s love tank full.  If you are going to fill your spouse’s love tank, you have to know how.


I have three suggestions:  First, spend daily time with God so that God can fill your love tank.  If you are going to be a good lover, you should spend daily time with Love (God).    Second, ask your spouse what makes him/her feel loved, and do your best to love them that way.  Third, pray and ask God to teach you how to love your spouse and listen for the Holy Spirit to speak.  God knows your spouse better than your spouse knows his or her self.  He will tell you things to do or things to say that will speak love to your spouse.  God’s Holy Spirit is the best love teacher!  

Until next week . . .




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  1. Janice Octavia Nelson on said:

    Thank you Sis for such a heart moving article! Truly, the indwelling of the Holy Spirit teaches us all things. All we have to do is ask. Blessings to you and Yours!

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