Marriage from A to Z

Principles for a Successful Marriage

Pay Attention!

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     Last Sunday I saw one of my friends at church talking to one of the senior citizens who I adore.  I noticed how nice my girlfriend looked in a beautiful brown dress, shoes, purse and jewelry to match.  She was well put together.  I said you look so nice!  She said thank you, I come over here to talk to Ms. ________ just to get a compliment because I don’t get any compliments at home.

     It’s a hurting feeling to be married and your spouse doesn’t pay you any attention.  I know when I get my hair done differently or wear something different, I love when my husband compliments me.  I think sometimes we take each other for granted and feel like our spouse already knows how we feel, but let’s put a stop to this!  Give daily attention to your spouse so that they are not starving to get it from someone else.

TIPS ON PAYING ATTENTION 

   Take a good look at your spouse ever day.  Give a compliment when a compliment is due.  Acknowledge each other when you are leaving and entering the home.  Find out what kind of day your spouse has had.  Notice a new outfit, hair style/cut, etc.  Always remember, if you don’t want to give attention, somebody else will.   “Paying attention to your mate and your marriage can save you from having to pay later.”

Partner with the Holy Spirit

Whenever we want a change to take place in our marriage or in our mates we must partner with the Holy Spirit. How do we do this? We go to God in prayer and talk to Him about the change we would like to see. Often times I have found that God will change me and my attitude before he changes my husband. When I allow the Holy Spirit to be the enforcer and not me or my mouth, I have seen God make lasting changes in my husband. Having a bad attitude and being a nagger only prolongs the change that we want to see. Partner with the Holy Spirit. Work with Him not against Him.

Are You Contentious Woman?

To be contentious is one who tends to be argumentative, causing controversy, and inclined to quarrel. One of the ways that wives are contentious is by being a nagger. You keep getting on your husband about the same thing over and over. After you have mentioned it once God wants you to stop going to your husband and bring it to Him. In Proverbs 27:15-16 “A quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping on a rainy day, restraining her is like restraining the wind or grasping oil with the hand,” In other words quarrelsome nagging is a steady stream of unwanted advice. it is a form of torture. People generally nag when they feel that they’re not getting through. However, nagging tends to hinder good communication. So this week I want to encourage you to take the compliments to your husband and your complaints to God.    

Conduct Check!

On Sunday, May 19th I had a great time meeting and greeting people outside the FBCG bookstore. I was amazed at the number of people who knew me but did not know about Marriage From A to Z. One lady stood out in particular because she wanted to know if there was anything in the book that could help her with her husband who doesn’t want to “do right.” Her example was he did not want to come to church with her. I responded by telling her the book is loaded with things she could do to make a difference in her marriage. 1 Peter 3:1 “Wives be submissive to your husbands, when he does not obey the Word he can be won by your conduct.” So my question to her and my question to you is “How is your conduct towards your husband?”  Would God be pleased, or do you need to make an adjustment?

Value your mate!

Take time to value your mate.  Treasure the spouse that God has given to you.  I know you hope to live until your eighty years old, but what if today were your last day?  What would you say, what would you do and how would you express your love to your spouse and loved ones?  Do it now, don’t delay.  Let them know how much you value them.  

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