Partner with the Holy Spirit
Whenever we want a change to take place in our marriage or in our mates we must partner with the Holy Spirit. How do we do this? We go to God in prayer and talk to Him about the change we would like to see. Often times I have found that God will change me and my attitude before he changes my husband. When I allow the Holy Spirit to be the enforcer and not me or my mouth, I have seen God make lasting changes in my husband. Having a bad attitude and being a nagger only prolongs the change that we want to see. Partner with the Holy Spirit. Work with Him not against Him.