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Are You Keeping Yourself Together?


     Most people look great on their wedding day, but are you keeping yourself together now?  My grandmother once said, “the same thing that you did to get your husband you need to do to keep him.”  She was specifically referring to the maintenance and up keep that we so often do when we are dating.  Usually we think carefully about how we will present ourselves and make sure that we look desirable.    This week I want to encourage you to keep looking desirable especially to your spouse!  If you have forgotten about yourself and haven’t been paying yourself much attention, I want to encourage you to get it together!

     Yes you are fearfully and wonderfully made, but you still have to keep yourself together from the inside out.  Keeping yourself together means that you are taking care of your outward appearance and feeding yourself spiritually to nourish the inner you.   When you take care of yourself, you feel better and you look better.  Don’t get so lost in your career, raising children and taking care of everyone else that you forget to take care of yourself.  

     Keeping yourself together should be a daily goal.  First you have to feed yourself with the Word of God and prayer to keep the inner you together.  Secondly, you have to take care of your body/health and your outward appearance.  Be careful about how you present yourself.  

     I have found that as I get older, it is takes more work to maintain my weight and appearance.  How are you doing in this area?  One of the things that inspires me is that I always want to feel good about how I look and I want my husband to be proud to introduce me as his wife.  In Genesis 39:6-10 the Bible says that Joseph was handsome in form and appearance. How is your form, how is your appearance? 


  1. Spend daily time in prayer and reading the Word of God.
  2. Exercise as often as you can.
  3. Maintain a good hair style/hair cut.
  4. Be selective about what you wear in public and in private.
  5. Have accountability partners. (Friends who will motivate you to exercise, eat right and keep yourself together)
  6. Drink water as often as you can.  Water helps to cleanse and helps your skin.
  7. Watch your portion size.  
  8. As often as you can, cut off your eating at a certain time for example; no eating after 7:00.
  9. Discipline yourself, don’t let it all go.
  10. Choose the right clothing for your body type.    

 Until Next Week . . . 




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3 thoughts on “Are You Keeping Yourself Together?

  1. Mrs. SG on said:

    Thx for the reminder! I love that you didn’t address solely the outward appearance but emphasized the beauty the word of God has in a persons life. Your post reminded me of the scripture “For physical training is of some value, but godliness has value for all things, holding promise for both the present life and the life to come.” 1 Tim 4:8 The reminder to keep the outer appearance pleasing to your mate is so important, thank you!

  2. Devona Wade on said:

    Great message! I have become lost in my roles as wife, mother and employee. Thank you for the reminder that I do matter and to take care of self as well.

  3. Mrs. T on said:

    Thank you for reminding me of this! I am so guilty! At times I feel as if I am taking away from the home when I spend money on myself! Its Gods word !I love it!

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