“Can You Be Faithful to Your Husband/Wife?”
Yesterday I read an article that was in the Washington Post (dated May 26) titled “How to break free from monogamy without destroying marriage.” This article was about a woman who is different from her church friends. She is different because she is married but no longer desires to be restricted to just dating and having sex with her husband. In other words, she desires to cheat on her husband. What’s different about her situation is that she sat down with her husband, and they both agreed to stay married but to pursue other options. The article went on to say that, more and more “progressive couples” are beginning to realize that they want to stay together but have other options. These options are just a click away because an app has been created especially for people who are married but interested in non-monogamous relationships.
God created marriage to be between one man and one woman. The scripture says a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two (not more than two) are united as one (Genesis 2:24). Although there were people in the Bible who practiced polygamy, it was not approved by God. It is clear that monogamy is God’s ideal marriage. When the characteristics of a good leader are given I Timothy 3, it says, “He must be faithful to his wife. He must exercise self-control, live wisely and have a good reputation.” God is faithful and certainly He can help us to be faithful to our spouse.
The world calls things that are wrong, right and things that are right, wrong. To be a Christian means to be Christ like. We must be imitators of Christ and not the world. Our goal should be to do what pleases God. I pray that every husband and wife would be committed and faithful to their spouse. Do not allow the ways and patterns of this world to convince you that it is okay to cheat on your spouse under any circumstances. May God give you self-control and a strong passionate desire to only be with the spouse that you have chosen. There are so many blessings in being faithful and so many consequences to being unfaithful. The world glamorizes unfaithfulness. However, there is a lot of hurt, brokenness and pain involved in being unfaithful because this is not the way that God intended for a marriage to be.
The article made it sound like being faithful to one man and one woman is a thing of the past and that no one is doing that today. This is a lie from the pit of hell. I am a witness that God can keep you committed to your spouse and that He can give you passion and desire just for your spouse. There are many couples who are committed to God and to each other. Some couples have been married for 20, 30, 40, and 50 years without ever cheating on their spouse. Contrary to what some may believe, it is possible. With God, all things are possible! (Matthew 19:26) If you are single with plans to get married, please talk about this beforehand, don’t assume that your potential mate will automatically be faithful.
Until next week . . .
Carolyn
Marriage from A to Z 
Carolyn, thank you for being a voice a Biblical wisdom speaking out in this day and age!
“The world calls things that are wrong, right and things that are right, wrong.” This is the truth. The sad thing is that such a thing probably never crossed the mind of the spouse who had to listen to the idea. S/he probably agree to it because they love the other person and want him/her to be happy. It’s a lose-lose situation.