“Marriage Will Not Solve All of Your Problems”
“I can’t wait until I get married!” Some people make this statement with the hopes of marriage being the answer to every problem that they have. As wonderful as marriage is, it will not automatically solve every problem. Many people naively think that it if they were only married, everything would be all right. Well, I am here to tell you that this is a marriage myth, and if you don’t believe me, ask anyone who is married.
Here are some problems that marriage will not solve:
- Sexual temptation
- Satisfaction of one’s deepest emotional needs
- Elimination of life’s difficulties
There are plenty of people who are married and still have each one of these problems. I Corinthians 7:28b says, “But those who marry will face many troubles in this life. . .” Marriage alone does not hold two people together. What holds two people together is commitment especially when a couple allows God to be the glue. When a husband and a wife are committed to each other and to Christ, they can successfully make it through any conflict or problem. For with God, ALL things are possible!
When a person thinks that marriage is the answer to all of their problems, it is very difficult for them to be happy as a single. They spend every day wishing and hoping for marriage and become consumed with the idea of being married. They get irritated when they hear that someone is engaged or getting married. It’s difficult for them to be genuinely happy for someone who is happily married or anyone who is getting married before them. When the idea of simply being married becomes a goal, desperation kicks in and people are more likely to make a poor choice. This is why there are so many married people who want to be single again.
Whether married or single, we must be content with our situation and focus on God. True joy and happiness can only be found in having a real relationship with God. He is the answer for every problem and situation that we have. God is the only One who can fill every void, meet every need, heal our hurts and keep us in the midst of whatever we are going through. God never intended for us to look for hope in a human being. If you do, you will be very disappointed. The Bible tells us to look to the hills from which comes our help, because our help comes from the Lord. (Psalm 121:1) He can solve every problem!
Until next week . . .
Great message. True word. I’ve been married for 30 years and ONLY with Christ at the center and each of us looking to Him to solve and see us through difficulty have we made it this far. I must admit that I did not know this when I first got married and I suffered needlessly expecting marriage to do for me only what God could do. Thank God for mercy and grace and the ability to grow and change by the power of the Holy Spirit. Today I have a wonderful marriage not because of either of us but because of both of us realizing that ONLY God can solve our problems and fulfill our deepest needs. Thank you for this great reminder and wisdom to those who perhaps haven’t made this realization yet. God bless you.