Marriage from A to Z

“All the Single Ladies”

Happy belated Mother’s Day to all of the mothers.  On Mother’s Day Sunday my pastor, (Pastor John K. Jenkins) preached a wonderful message and dedicated it to all of the single mothers. This week I want to follow his lead and dedicate this blog to “All the Single Ladies.”  I recently finished teaching a class for single ladies (Marriage from A to Z for Singles), and I don’t think I met anyone who said, “I don’t want to be married.”  With that being said,  I’ve got some questions that I want you to answer and think about.

The Bible says, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord.” (Proverbs 18:22) Even though the second part of that verse is wonderful, let’s just focus on the first part.  Here are the questions:  1)  Where will he find you?  2)  When will he find you?  3) What will he find and  will you be a good thing?

1) Where will he find you?  Will he find you at work, at home, at church, in the club, in the store, in a good place or in a bad place?  Only God knows!  Think about where you spend most of your time and the type of man that you would like to attract.  If the two don’t match, make some changes.  There are a lot of places that you can go from week to week but make God’s house a weekly priority.

2) When will he find you?  I know some of you are tired of waiting but be encouraged!  Marriage is a good thing and a wonderful institution.  You don’t want to enter into marriage lightly nor do you want to rush into marriage with the wrong person.  He will find you when God shows him where you are and who you are.  Be patient and use this time to build a strong relationship with God.  A strong relationship with God will help you to make a good choice and will help you to be a good/godly wife.  Trust God’s timing for you!

3)  What will he find and will you be a good thing?  Many ladies are talking about the desire to get married but they really don’t want to be a wife.  Proverbs 5:18 says, may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.  God intended for marriage to be good, fun, pleasurable and for a man/woman to be able to rejoice in their selection.  A wife is defined as a married woman.  However, you don’t want to just be a married woman, be a married godly woman.  Find out what it means to be a godly woman/wife and study the qualities.   Check out my book, Embracing Excellence where the type of wife that we all should strive to be is defined. Being a “good thing” isn’t something that you automatically know how to do, it starts with having a genuine relationship with God.

Until next week . . .

Carolyn